This Is The Fastest Way To Get What You Want

You’ll never know how good life can be until you fill it with the right people. And that will never happen if the wrong people are taking up all the room.

It’s taken me more than twenty years to discover the fastest way to get fit, but I finally found it. And it isn’t what you think it is.

It’s not low carbs, no carbs, or all the carbs, and it’s not CrossFit, either. It’s also not intermittent fasting, running marathons, obstacle races, or God forbid, The Assault Bike!

No, the fastest way to get fit, the fastest way to get anything you want in life, is to get good at breaking up.

It sounds harsh because it is. It hurts, it scars, and it sucks, and while it’s never fun, it does get easier the more you do it.

My first real break up was the first athlete I ever coached. He took a shot and believed in a kid who just wanted to workout with his friends. Unbelievably, he tolerated my lack of knowledge and encouraged my path. Then he got possessive and demanded I only train people he was friends with, so I broke up with him. Hours passed, I sat alone wondering if I’d just made the first and worst choice of the rest of my life. Then the shock wore off, and I started filling my schedule with healthy relationships.

Next, I broke up with pretty much every high school friend I ever had. I love them dearly and will never forget them, but I want to spend my time in the gym, doing things that make me and others better. They want to do the exact opposite, the same things we’d always done; drink and cause trouble. Every time we hung out, they harassed me for eating chicken and broccoli while they ate pizza. They said I changed, and they were right. I wasn’t the guy they signed on to be friends with anymore. So to live the new life I wanted, I set them free of me.

It didn’t stop with friends and family. Staying up late, saying yes to everything, spending money I didn’t have — I broke up with most of that too. I still have a lot of work to do, but without getting good at breaking up, I’d still be the same person I was decades ago. And that scares me more than just about anything.

The people and purpose we fill our lives with might be right for a time, but times change. And if we want to change with them, we better get good at breaking up with the things holding us back. That, or get comfortable right where we are.