Saying “No” Works If You Repeat It; Why You Should Mediate Anyway; And How One Rep Of This Exercise Daily Will Make You Fitter

After four quick and one-sided arguments, I’m almost always good to go, and whatever meaningless desire passes.

Josh Bunch

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Once doesn’t work.

Not for me, anyway. And not for even one of my seven dogs.

Twice? Not really, no. And not usually three times, either.

For me, it’s four. Four is the sweet spot.

That’s how many times I have to tell myself “no” before I actually listen.

It goes like this.

“I really want cookies.”

“No.” Then, about ten minutes later.

“You’ve done so good all week, Josh. Go eat some delicious chocolate chips.”

“I said, no.” Five minutes after that.

“What’s the point of all this? What’s all this fitness for? Can you just reward yourself, just this once?”

“It won’t be once and you know it. No.” Then later, usually much later.

“Okay. You win. But man, cookies sound great, right?”

“Yes. But making myself proud sounds better. So NO COOKIES!”

Sound psychotic? Off-putting? Familiar?

However it sounds, it’s my process when it comes to cravings. After four quick and one-sided arguments, I’m almost always good to go, and whatever meaningless desire passes.

But here’s the important part. When it happens again later that night, when I drive by that bakery, when I’m still hungry after dinner, I’ll say “no” again. And again. And again.

And again.

I’ll welcome the opportunity, actually. Because each time I say no, I’m a little closer to who I want to be.

Meditate Anyway

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Josh Bunch

Bunch is one of those rare humans who only talks about what he knows; fitness, food, philosophy, and movies. And puppies.