3 Tactics To Control Destructive Impulses: Poking The Bear: And Jason Fung On Vinegar

Setting ultra-challenging goals that require all my free time keeps me focused.

It begins with a whisper.

“Eat this.”

“No one will know.”

“You deserve it.”

Giving in feels like the best downhill drop off a tall rollercoaster. The aftermath, however, is guilt, regret, and shame.

We’ve shifted focus today. Instead of adopting disciplines to help control the original impulse, we attack the fallout.

Instead of making something good of the guilt, allowing the shame to do its work and mold us for the future, we psychobabble our way into feeling like the issue isn’t the impulse. It’s that we feel bad in the first place.

Rationalization comes next as we transform the mistake into an awkward opportunity to extend another buzzword to our fragile sensibility — grace — preventing us from feeling the pain we need to change.